Oh HEY There Equality

I absolutely HAD to post this, couldn’t resist. When I read the title I was like “yaaaay more bull about feminism” but I was so unbelievably and pleasantly surprised by it.

Finally an article preaching equality and not the bashing of men in the process.

http://www.policymic.com/mobile/articles/76145/28-most-iconic-feminist-moments-of-2013 http://www.policymic.com/mobile/articles/76145/28-most-iconic-feminist-moments-of-2013

The ONLY negative thing I found was the reverse racism of post #15- with regards to the twitter hash tag the went viral “#SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen.” Genuinely sick of people blaming and accusing white women of having the perfect life. White women experience sexism too… If you want to promote equality, “don’t do unto others what you don’t want others do unto you”

Love, K

Hello readers!
QUICK, choose a photo:

I am feeling quite stereotypically girlie so warning to any male followers but you are more than welcome to shyly join me in this cuddly warmth. I think I would choose the second photo but in all honesty, I would kill for either.

Toronto is covered in a blanket of snow (prior to becoming disgusting brown slush), my Friday classes have been cancelled, Caramel Macchiato in hand and all that I’m missing is one of those cozy spots from the pictures above to read my books! I have very few demands for my dream house but it absolutely HAS to include a fireplace and a bay window. Deal breaker!

What would your dream house look like? Do you have a favourite spot to cozy up with a book and some coffee?

Love, K

Sorry, Not Sorry

Today’s post might be a bit of a touchy subject and I want to start off by saying if you refer to my first post “Were you raised too neutral” you would know that it is highly recommended to read this with an open mind. If you’ve locked yours and thrown away the key then this might not be the blog for you!

Sometime last week I heard on the news that a little boy had been killed during his walk to school one morning. What troubled me the most was that the driver was an elderly man. This is a reoccurring problem that we need to stop tiptoeing around. Time after time elderly citizens, who are not fit enough to drive, are accidentally injuring and killing people.

Nothing is being done because this is considered “ageism.” The speed limit in Canada is 40km/hr for school zones (or 25 miles) and this man managed to hit the mother first (meaning that he had to have seen her or felt her hit the car), knocked her to the side and proceeded to run the 4 year old over who later died in the hospital. The case is still under investigation so I cannot say for sure but the majority of these people get fined and their licence suspended. Case closed. I don’t want to assume that it is automatically due to his age, but the fact that he was 78 years old and hit not only one, but two people is quite the coincidence.

I also heard a story a couple of years ago about an elderly woman who hit a jogger and the jogger got caught onto the car and was dragged for a decent amount of time to the woman’s driveway where she bled to death. The driver didn’t notice, walked inside her house and a man who was walking his dog found her and called 911. (NOTE: I cannot find a link to this story so it’s okay if you deem this story unfit evidence for my point, I apologize. It is simply something I saw on the news when I was younger!)

I believe that many of these murders can be stopped simply by administering a physical test for drivers over the age of 60 for example. It is a natural part of life to begin to lose vision, to be hearing impaired, to have slower reaction times, to be less aware and no one is belittling you because of that. We will all get there one day, someone might reach it at 60, others at 80… It’s really not that big of a deal. But it IS a big deal if you drive impaired and kill innocent people because of being stubborn, and not willing to admit your inability to drive safely.

If you are deemed unfit to drive, our government should provide designated taxis at the same cost of owning a car (paying insurance, gas, etc) in order for it to be fair! In my eyes this is not ageism, it is realism.

That would be in an ideal world, but that ideal world does not exist therefore all I can say is if you, or someone you know, is reaching that age where you are starting to question their driving abilities, stop them. Together maybe you can find another way to get where you need to go. Carpool with friends, taxis, public transit etc.

This is not only for the innocent that could be killed or hurt, but it is for the driver as well. Could you live with yourself knowing that you, accidentally killed someone?

Love, K

P.s. if you are interested in the story, I have provided the link below.

http://www.680news.com/2013/11/20/boy-4-dies-after-struck-by-vehicle-near-mississauga-school/

 

Sunday Lameday

What type of Sunday-er are you?
Some people like to get all the housework done on Sundays and some are church goers. I enjoy sitting in my pjs tucked into my fuzzy socks sleeping till 12 finishing school work and watching TV and some horribly cheesy movies. It’s one day a week… Allow it.

However today was an awful end to an awful week. I had to go to a school meeting for 5 hours and then attend a funeral. Therefore, I will not be writing a post today. Instead, I’m just gonna give you a few quotes I like and some cute photos to end the day on a relatively positive and comforting note. If you had a bad day, I totally get it. It happens, get up… Dust yourself off… And lets start Monday with a smile!

Love, K

“Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.” – Paulo Coelho

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened” – Mark Twain

“I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.” – Muhammad Ali

Queen of Hearts

 

 

I’d like to use this post to explain the quote I have used as the description for this blog because it means a lot to me and I just think it’s brilliant!

“My dear, here we must run as fast as we can, just to stay in place. And if you wish to go anywhere you must run twice as fast as that.”
-Lewis Carroll

This was said by the Queen of Hearts in Lewis Carroll’s book “Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland.” If you’ve only watched the movie then SHAME ON YOU!! Hahaha it’s a genius novel that not only sparks your imagination, which I think is great because most of us tend to leave our imagination on the back burner after the age of 10, but it also gets your gears turning about your purpose in life and asking that big question of “who are you?”

Basically, good literature can be interpreted in a million ways. The way I read it is that the world is changing and it is moving at an incredible speed. If we want to be safe in our position in the world, we must constantly feed our brains to be as sharp as can possibly be. Whether that is referring to you keeping a position at your job, a good place in your relationship or getting steady grades, that is up to you.

HOWEVER, if we want to succeed, reach your highest possible goals… Then you must double that effort. Push yourself to your absolute limits and further, give it everything you’ve got, be out of breath, no sleep, no eating, shift into the 5th gear and you’ll get there.

That is what this blog is about! Get you thinking so that we can all keep our brains sharp and useful.

This quote is inspiration for determination and I absolutely love it.

NOTE TO READERS: please feel free to voice your opinion!!! I am always up for a good debate and open to different interpretations or counter arguments! Also, if there is anything in particular you would like for me to discuss in any future posts please let me know!!

Love, K

Regrets

I really didn’t plan on my second post ever being quite this sad but something has come up today and I felt that I should spread the word.

I hate the saying “live with no regrets” because it is absolutely impossible.
Let me explain.
You will 100% regret that neon/ geometric patterned outfit you wore to school in the 90’s. you will regret lying to a loved one. And you will, without a doubt, regret at LEAST one haircut/ dye at one point in your life.

That being said, you SHOULD however think twice when it comes to burning bridges with old friends, that is a HUGE regret that can easily be avoided by putting your ego and pride on the sidelines.

About 4 years ago I was really good friends with a girl from my high school. She was bad news but I could see on the inside that she was a good hearted person and I never wanted to push her away. She had some family troubles, mom left her when she was young, so I just never had it in my heart to voice my opinion on some things that bugged me. One day at the end of the 12th grade, she just randomly cut ME out. Stopped answering my calls, stopped coming to class, no texts, no answer on Facebook. NOTHING and for no reason! To this day I still have no clue why we stopped talking…

Anyways, her dad and my mom have stayed in touch and that’s how I found out that he has cancer. He recovered once, got it again, recovered a second time and got it again. Well today I found out that it has spread everywhere and he is now on life support. You don’t have to be best friends with everyone in your life, but burning bridges could put you in an awful position some day down the road. The loss of this friendship is one of my biggest regrets.

It’s really sad that it has to come to illness or (god forbid) death, to bring people together again. Don’t let it come to that please. Don’t regret not being there for the good times just because of your pride.

Love, K

Were you raised too NEUTRAL?

Because I was… 

I hate feminists and hate anti-feminists.

PDA by LGBT couples bothers me but so does PDA by straight couples.

I don’t like the idea of drugs but I don’t hate it either.

Marriage, Casual sex, Alcohol, Racism, Politics, Religion. To listen to your parents or not to listen? Choose your own career path or let you parents choose for you?

You name it. I’m neutral. I’m not saying that I have no opinion. I have strong arguments opposing both sides but I also have strong arguments supporting both sides. Some might consider that boring. I think of it as open minded.

After some careful over analysis of myself and my life (I’m at my quarter-life crisis…give me a break) I’ve realized that my parents never influenced a single decision of mine. They have their strong opinions, but they never made me feel like I had to carry those same beliefs. I love it and I truly appreciate it, but I have caught myself thinking multiple times “why couldn’t my parents have forced me to just become a doctor?” Yep, I’m one of those students who have changed their major more times than you can even imagine and it absolutely drives me bonkers but I have faith in the idea that this will lead me to a job that I love. I chose to go to university. I chose to be a bit of a tomboy. I chose to be spiritual rather than Christian Orthodox. I chose to ignore politics. I chose to stay a virgin for as long as I did. I feel that I have the freedom to do as I please with my own life. 

Why does this all matter? Well…it doesn’t, I’m simply trying to explain that it’s okay not to choose a side. Lots of us feel the pressure to pick a side for everything. Social institutions are bombarding us with what is right and what is wrong.

That girl you knew 5 years ago from highschool? Yeah, she just posted a facebook status about how anyone who votes for Rob Ford after the cocaine scandal is a retard. The cousin of your best friends boyfriend? He just posted a picture of himself at the gay pride parade on Instagram with a caption saying ‘support LGBT rights.’ Watching your favourite show? You just saw a commercial about what car you should drive. And you’ve probably attended at least one lecture in which your feminist professor tells you something along the lines of if a woman chooses to be a house wife… Well she must be brain dead.

In order for us to be equal, we need to stop shoving our beliefs down each others throats. Don’t tell me black people commit all crimes and don’t tell me that all white people are racist. Don’t tell me to support LGBT rights and don’t tell me they don’t deserve rights. We have all become sheep. Even the hipsters who hate sheep are a herd of hipsters. We must start thinking for ourselves. You can choose a side or you can be neutral but please just be respectful and considerate.

Society has lost that and we really need it back.

Love, K